Men

I want to put Relationship101 on my title post but then I thought I'm not quite an expert in relationship, and I'm not going to talk about relationship directly, but about the chasing process. To be exact, about the subject who usually does the chase.

Men. They say they don't understand women. The truth is, I know us women can be difficult at times, but you, men, often times are way too damn clueless! I don't mean that women are blameless and you should've understood us completely - no. But sometimes you guys are just sooo... I don't know, I can't find words other than stupid too simplistic. I mean, sure, it's a good attribute to have - until you meet a woman. There's nothing simple about a woman/girl. We're sensitive, thoughtful, fragile, vulnerable, strong, feminine, teary, etc., we're so different from you, that you'd have to find many ways to attract, pursue, understand and eventually get our full attention for you.

Now I'm not saying I'm having the exact/definite 'advices/guidance' for guys during 'the chase phase', but there are some points that I can help you with based on my experience(s):

• Do not send a 'romantic' text, emoticon or anything else equivalent if you're not sure she's interested. I mean, really? Sending 'I miss you' or *hugs* won't win her heart. If anything she'll think you're crossing the line, and you'll lose points.
• Do not even think to approach a Christian girl (and I'm talking about a real Christian girl) if you're not planning to get to know her God. I don't know how it works with other religions though, but I happen to know that some Buddhist don't mind to be with Christian, vice versa, but that only happens once in a blue moon. Tough luck, bros. Have you ever heard a saying that goes like this, 'A woman's heart has to be so close to God that if a man wants to be with her, he has to seek God first'? And that's how the standard goes. Most of the time, you'll only going to break both of your heart if you keep going forward.
• Be her friend, not a I-want-to-be-your-lover stranger. Of course you'll have to let her know that you're interested, but a relationship will last longer when you start off as friends. The only reason why you are friendzoned (if you worry this will happen) is because you acted like no. 1 and you're just not her type.
• Do not rush things. "Wise-man says only fools rushing." And the wise-man couldn't be any wiser. Just because she agreed for one dinner, or sending you a smiley after saying goodnight, it doesn't mean she sees you the way you see her. Pace yourself. Wisely. Timing is very important.

So.

I can only think about those four things. Haha.

See

Not too much, right?

It should be easy. Now I'm not saying that if you follow those four advices she'll want to be with you right away. But it will give you extra points in her eyes. And be a gentleman. Always. Be. A. Gentleman.

In the end, if she doesn't end up with you, there's always be someone else around the corner.

:)