Because you don't want to hurt anyone

All this time I live my life based upon the so called principle of 'Golden Rule.' Anyone not familiar with that term? Do to others what you want others do to you. I applied this principle in every aspect of my life and whenever I have a conversation with my friends, or when they ask for advices, I give them my wisdom based on this principle as well.

Now talking about love. I love love, and I hate being hurt. I know how hurt a heart break feels, and it sucks. I disrespect people who hurt me in a way that I don't ever want to be in the same position as they do, at least I try. But sometimes you just cannot not hurt someone. Sometimes you just hurt them even though you don't mean to. In this particular case, I choose to hurt someone now rather than waiting until it's too late and the pain will go beyond hurt.

I just had a chat with a friend, and this friend told me about the situation she has with a guy. And how in the end she thinks she won't end up with him. Now if you were in her position, what would you do? Would you go on until it's time for you to go and left him? Or would you tell him straight away that it's not going to work and end it? My answer is, been there, done that, and the latter one is the wiser thing to do.

But her answer was quiet shocking to me. I told her about this and she's just, well yeah, I know, but I'll tell him later. And I was like, 'You know, the sooner he knows the better.' She thought for a while and said, "Well, I believe there are many girls dying to be with him anyway... I mean why not?" "Because you don't want to hurt anyone?" She fixed her gaze on me and laughing. "Are you taking advantage on him?!" I said half-jokingly and she's like, "Yeah, why can't I? Why shouldn't I?"

You see people, I have been on her position to know better: "don't play with fire if you don't wanna get burnt". If you're human and not mean, hurting someone will hurt you too. But most importantly, I've been on the guy's position too. And I would much more prefer if someone's telling me straight away that they're just not into me. Or that things won't work out. Or that they just wanna having fun. So I'd know. And I won't be wasting my time for them.

But maybe this is one of the things that you should learn by your own experience and not others. You know, like driving a car, or kissing, or being in a relationship. Name it.